I’ve changed something about myself (not my boobs – I don’t need any more help in that department, well I didn’t before kids). I don’t regret it, ever.
It sounds incredibly shallow to say that it changed the way I think about myself. But it did. It allowed me to stop thinking about it and letting it affect my confidence. Maybe just getting it over it would have worked as well.. but I guess I took the easy way out!
Got to love a red head, I have two red headed cherubs and I’m hoping they embrace their redness! I haven’t really changed anything about myself, except my hair colour. I guess I’ve always tried to changed my psyche rather than the physical stuff that’s my genetic inheritance, that I have to learn to accept as me.
I’ve unchanged something. I have dyed my hair black for th last zillion years and while we were away I let it grow out. My hubby is an organic farmer and has been hassling me about toxic chemicals near my scalp for years. So now I am mousy. I’m not such a fan. But I am giving it a chance and trying not to act or think mousy. x
I have to disagree, Ichange emotionally depending on how I look… I battled a major depression post kids as so much changed and I worked hard to have the body I had before them. I trained hard because I enjoyed it but I had a strong fit body to show for it and that made me proud. I am still working hard to get back to that place and whilst I think in my heart I know I never can I feel the need to try because….well call me shallow but I want to look hot !.. It’s worth a try!
I get fixated about working on the inner me, that I forget that the me on the outside needs a little attention once in a while too. I often go out looking like a dishevelled mess thinking I don’t know anyone, but we have a few friends now on the Central Coast (!) and I bumped into someone the other day looking the way I did, and I was mortified! How you look does affect the way you come across – there’s no doubt about it. No need for anything drastic, though, in my humble opinion. Good clothes, a nice haircut and a beaming smile always gives me confidence!
Bron, being a redhead is bloody AWESOME!! we have superpowers and everything. It’s only MORONS who make it hard for us, and that’s because they’re bloody jealous. LOOK how frikkin COOL we are, man. LOOK at us. We ROCK.
My hair has been every colour you could imagine. It was the one thing I could change during a time when in was very dissatisfied with myself. Not that it ever made me feel better. Just a symptom of deeper issues.
I put blonde highlights in my hair, so I guess I’m not all natural. I have never had any cosmetic surgery (although I did have a “suprise plastic surgery appointment” made for me while I was living in Korea – a colleague organised it as a suprise birthday treat for me! I chose to see the funny side and politely turned the free surgery down.)
You know, I think it’s the collective psyche that we need to change. Perhaps, if our society decided appearances were’t such a big deal, then we would think less about changing ourselves.
I so agree, Bron. Except that when I gave my scales away and decided never to weigh myself again and just accept who I was I put on 10-15 kgs! {see I don’t even know how much because I’ve been too scared to get the scales back!}. Maybe my ass is supposed to be this flippin huge and I should just deal with it – psychologically speaking;)
I’m hearing you! Opposite end of the scale here. I could do those screwy things into my legs but it’s not going to change the fact that I have achondroplasia…and besides, I’m allergic to THAT much pain!
I can’t change it but I can change my attitude. I’ve worked real hard at becoming comfortable in my own skin. I exercise this little body so I’m strong and healthy & it feels good! I have no boobs but I’ve seen what implants look like on a skinny little shorty like me & have decided that flat is much better! I’ve stopped coloring my hair and am now back to mousy with grey bits. It’s all good.
So yeah, I guess you could say I have changed something inside and it’s made me appreciate the unchangeable outside so much more. 🙂
I like being a redhead. Took me a while, but once I got there I was all for it. The only thing I hate – lack of brows. So I tint my brows and lashes. Just so I know they’re there.
Like Kate Fox, I was a brown mouse but started going auburn at 15. It made me feel so much better about myself. When no.3 came along (and after 15 years of being a fake redhead) I was too busy to go to the hairdresser, I went without the auburn for a year and accepted the mouse. I realised the sauciness came from within, not from the red on my head. We might believe changing makes ourselves more happy, more powerful, but the real power is in loving ourselves as we are. It makes us invincible. x
I have worn glasses since I was five. Once a teen, I would only wear them for school work, and walked around practically blind the rest of the time. People would constantly say to me Why did you ignore me the other day when I waved to you. Once I got a job the first thing I saved up for was contact lenses.
When I was pregnant with my children, for some reason I couldn’t wear them, they would irritate my eyes, so I would go back to wearing glasses… glasses that had finally caught up with the rest of the world, and were becoming a fashion accessory.
I flirted with the idea of getting contacts again last year, just to be able to wear occasionally, like a different dress. But gave up on the idea, because I embraced the fact that I look good in glasses.
The fact that my partner thinks they are sexy helped alot 😉
I change my hair, often. I strongly believe that a good hair cut CAN change your life. Shallow maybe, but when you look in the mirror and feel good about yourself, you’re half way there already!
I’m a redhead and a curly one at that. Curly, red hair was not ideal in school when poker straight, flicky and blonde was in. Amazingly though I never felt the need to dye it or change it and have embraced my colour and curls more and more the older I get. The length changes from time to time but I think my hair is what makes me me.
don’t we all hate something that we have ? my neice who is only 4 has the loveliest ringlets like shirely temple…only brunette….but already she wants her hair straight….We want what we can’t have. Saying that, it doesnt help that you can’t look on tv, magazine or website without seeing someone airbrushed and photoshopped to perfection. When i was a teenager I hated my unruly eyebrows and once I got them shaped and waxed, it just made me feel heaps better…about myself and all that stuff. It’s a tough one…i agree the outside really does shape who we feel on the inside…we just need to work on that psyches!
I think we all feel better about ourselves when we highlight our assets and disguise our negatives. Would have to disagree that we should never change the way we look. My eldest had her ears pinned when she was four. She had no idea they were an issue and now it never will be an issue. What about braces? Is it a crime to have a lovely smile? I am all for people doing what makes them truly happy.I can’t judge what a flat chested woman feels like with implants. Or a woman post mastectomy. It is important to feel comfortable and accepting with the things we can’t change.
I highlight my hair which makes me feel more like my younger self when I used to be naturally blonde! And I had two moles removed a few years ago – one large one on my ear and one sml one beside my nose and Ive felt a lot less self conscious since. I hated wearing my hair up when I had the one on my ear because it was a really ugly mole that had gotten larger after my 3 pregnancies. The second looked like a pimple!
So I think there is merit in people doing stuff to feel better. Some of it is highly uncalled for (like when The Hills star, Heidi Montag, had 10 ops at age 23 to ‘better’ herself!) and some get carried away…we don’t all need to look like a cross between a cat and a Barbie doll when we age! But a little here and there…it’s ok.
so true Bron. Maybe it is all about loving ourselves a little more, flaws and imperfections included. Maybe if we all loved ourselves a little more just the way we are our children will too.
Of course it is ok to “change” a few things here and there, but one must ask, what is the psyche behind the need for a change? Acceptance and love! xx
I think the key to changing your exterior is first being ok with your interior. I know so many people who think “If only my boobs were bigger” or “If only my hair was X colour” and they change them and it doesn’t change how they feel about themselves. They’re still unhappy. It’s all internal in my opinion. And when you have that right, you generally don’t care too much about the external.
I got my nose pierced in my 20’s. I was living in Fitzroy at the time, everyone had them, it was a little bit edgy, a bit cool…so not me! It was rebel enough to flip my parents out a bit but not as much as I knew a tat would..x
I have many redheads in my life so no need to be one! I am a la natural in the hair region (the greys are coming!), but I would go a tummy tuck to ‘fix’ the aftermath of those bloody twins! Sadly I have neither the money nor the time for such frivolities so I will just use ‘control underwear’ to mask x
melissa says
I’ve changed something about myself (not my boobs – I don’t need any more help in that department, well I didn’t before kids). I don’t regret it, ever.
It sounds incredibly shallow to say that it changed the way I think about myself. But it did. It allowed me to stop thinking about it and letting it affect my confidence. Maybe just getting it over it would have worked as well.. but I guess I took the easy way out!
Nat - Muddy Farmwife says
Got to love a red head, I have two red headed cherubs and I’m hoping they embrace their redness!
I haven’t really changed anything about myself, except my hair colour. I guess I’ve always tried to changed my psyche rather than the physical stuff that’s my genetic inheritance, that I have to learn to accept as me.
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Kate says
I’ve unchanged something.
I have dyed my hair black for th last zillion years and while we were away I let it grow out. My hubby is an organic farmer and has been hassling me about toxic chemicals near my scalp for years.
So now I am mousy.
I’m not such a fan.
But I am giving it a chance and trying not to act or think mousy. x
ks says
I dye my hair blonde. I love it.
I got tattoos when I was younger. I hate them.
Now I concentrate on feeling good in my skin.
I agree, I don’t think it’s justified if it makes someone ‘feel better’. Look inside. Fix that first.
Down that Little Lane says
I have to disagree, Ichange emotionally depending on how I look… I battled a major depression post kids as so much changed and I worked hard to have the body I had before them. I trained hard because I enjoyed it but I had a strong fit body to show for it and that made me proud. I am still working hard to get back to that place and whilst I think in my heart I know I never can I feel the need to try because….well call me shallow but I want to look hot !.. It’s worth a try!
Vanessa says
I get fixated about working on the inner me, that I forget that the me on the outside needs a little attention once in a while too. I often go out looking like a dishevelled mess thinking I don’t know anyone, but we have a few friends now on the Central Coast (!) and I bumped into someone the other day looking the way I did, and I was mortified! How you look does affect the way you come across – there’s no doubt about it. No need for anything drastic, though, in my humble opinion. Good clothes, a nice haircut and a beaming smile always gives me confidence!
Toni says
NUH! Nope! NO WAY!!
Bron, being a redhead is bloody AWESOME!! we have superpowers and everything.
It’s only MORONS who make it hard for us, and that’s because they’re bloody jealous.
LOOK how frikkin COOL we are, man. LOOK at us. We ROCK.
Tenille says
My hair has been every colour you could imagine. It was the one thing I could change during a time when in was very dissatisfied with myself. Not that it ever made me feel better. Just a symptom of deeper issues.
InkPaperPen says
I put blonde highlights in my hair, so I guess I’m not all natural. I have never had any cosmetic surgery (although I did have a “suprise plastic surgery appointment” made for me while I was living in Korea – a colleague organised it as a suprise birthday treat for me! I chose to see the funny side and politely turned the free surgery down.)
You know, I think it’s the collective psyche that we need to change. Perhaps, if our society decided appearances were’t such a big deal, then we would think less about changing ourselves.
LionessLady says
Gosh I love that image Bron! I totes love redheas – my best friend is one and I am so jealous of her gorgeous red mane!
Kelly Exeter says
Where did you find that picture?! AMAzing.
Now – what have I changed about myself? Well maybe a propensity for saying Yes. I have definitely gotten a lot smarter about what I say YES to 🙂
Oh and my hair, I am always dyeing it red. So clearly I want to be just like you Bron 😉
Bron says
Great post…something that is so important to teach our children…although I did dye my greys out last night and feel so much better for it xx
Kim H says
I so agree, Bron. Except that when I gave my scales away and decided never to weigh myself again and just accept who I was I put on 10-15 kgs! {see I don’t even know how much because I’ve been too scared to get the scales back!}. Maybe my ass is supposed to be this flippin huge and I should just deal with it – psychologically speaking;)
Leisa says
I’m hearing you! Opposite end of the scale here. I could do those screwy things into my legs but it’s not going to change the fact that I have achondroplasia…and besides, I’m allergic to THAT much pain!
I can’t change it but I can change my attitude. I’ve worked real hard at becoming comfortable in my own skin. I exercise this little body so I’m strong and healthy & it feels good! I have no boobs but I’ve seen what implants look like on a skinny little shorty like me & have decided that flat is much better! I’ve stopped coloring my hair and am now back to mousy with grey bits. It’s all good.
So yeah, I guess you could say I have changed something inside and it’s made me appreciate the unchangeable outside so much more. 🙂
Life In A Pink Fibro says
I like being a redhead. Took me a while, but once I got there I was all for it. The only thing I hate – lack of brows. So I tint my brows and lashes. Just so I know they’re there.
therhythmmethod says
Like Kate Fox, I was a brown mouse but started going auburn at 15. It made me feel so much better about myself. When no.3 came along (and after 15 years of being a fake redhead) I was too busy to go to the hairdresser, I went without the auburn for a year and accepted the mouse. I realised the sauciness came from within, not from the red on my head. We might believe changing makes ourselves more happy, more powerful, but the real power is in loving ourselves as we are. It makes us invincible. x
Madmother says
In my 20’s I died my then blonde hair deep red. And changed my glasses for blue contacts. Then had to also change my makeup, colours I wore, etc.
I would get a shock EVERY time I looked in the mirror or passed my reflection in a shop window.
Even after over 12 months of persevering. Hence I am once more a blonde with hazel eyes. Though I do wear green contacts every now and again, lol.
Vicky says
I have worn glasses since I was five. Once a teen, I would only wear them for school work, and walked around practically blind the rest of the time. People would constantly say to me Why did you ignore me the other day when I waved to you. Once I got a job the first thing I saved up for was contact lenses.
When I was pregnant with my children, for some reason I couldn’t wear them, they would irritate my eyes, so I would go back to wearing glasses… glasses that had finally caught up with the rest of the world, and were becoming a fashion accessory.
I flirted with the idea of getting contacts again last year, just to be able to wear occasionally, like a different dress. But gave up on the idea, because I embraced the fact that I look good in glasses.
The fact that my partner thinks they are sexy helped alot 😉
BabyMac says
I change my hair, often. I strongly believe that a good hair cut CAN change your life. Shallow maybe, but when you look in the mirror and feel good about yourself, you’re half way there already!
Anna @ green tea n toast says
I’m a redhead and a curly one at that. Curly, red hair was not ideal in school when poker straight, flicky and blonde was in. Amazingly though I never felt the need to dye it or change it and have embraced my colour and curls more and more the older I get. The length changes from time to time but I think my hair is what makes me me.
Brenda @ Mira Narnie says
don’t we all hate something that we have ? my neice who is only 4 has the loveliest ringlets like shirely temple…only brunette….but already she wants her hair straight….We want what we can’t have. Saying that, it doesnt help that you can’t look on tv, magazine or website without seeing someone airbrushed and photoshopped to perfection. When i was a teenager I hated my unruly eyebrows and once I got them shaped and waxed, it just made me feel heaps better…about myself and all that stuff. It’s a tough one…i agree the outside really does shape who we feel on the inside…we just need to work on that psyches!
Ny. says
I love that mask.
Vanessa says
I think we all feel better about ourselves when we highlight our assets and disguise our negatives.
Would have to disagree that we should never change the way we look. My eldest had her ears pinned when she was four. She had no idea they were an issue and now it never will be an issue. What about braces? Is it a crime to have a lovely smile? I am all for people doing what makes them truly happy.I can’t judge what a flat chested woman feels like with implants. Or a woman post mastectomy.
It is important to feel comfortable and accepting with the things we can’t change.
Jodie Ansted says
I highlight my hair which makes me feel more like my younger self when I used to be naturally blonde! And I had two moles removed a few years ago – one large one on my ear and one sml one beside my nose and Ive felt a lot less self conscious since. I hated wearing my hair up when I had the one on my ear because it was a really ugly mole that had gotten larger after my 3 pregnancies. The second looked like a pimple!
So I think there is merit in people doing stuff to feel better. Some of it is highly uncalled for (like when The Hills star, Heidi Montag, had 10 ops at age 23 to ‘better’ herself!) and some get carried away…we don’t all need to look like a cross between a cat and a Barbie doll when we age! But a little here and there…it’s ok.
Jodie Ansted says
PS I love red hair…two out of three sons have it, and so far, they have zero issues with it. 🙂 x
tahlia @ the parenting files says
so true Bron. Maybe it is all about loving ourselves a little more, flaws and imperfections included. Maybe if we all loved ourselves a little more just the way we are our children will too.
Of course it is ok to “change” a few things here and there, but one must ask, what is the psyche behind the need for a change? Acceptance and love! xx
Miss Pink says
I think the key to changing your exterior is first being ok with your interior. I know so many people who think “If only my boobs were bigger” or “If only my hair was X colour” and they change them and it doesn’t change how they feel about themselves. They’re still unhappy.
It’s all internal in my opinion. And when you have that right, you generally don’t care too much about the external.
mel @ loved says
I got my nose pierced in my 20’s. I was living in Fitzroy at the time, everyone had them, it was a little bit edgy, a bit cool…so not me! It was rebel enough to flip my parents out a bit but not as much as I knew a tat would..x
MultipleMum says
I have many redheads in my life so no need to be one! I am a la natural in the hair region (the greys are coming!), but I would go a tummy tuck to ‘fix’ the aftermath of those bloody twins! Sadly I have neither the money nor the time for such frivolities so I will just use ‘control underwear’ to mask x